Most people react negatively when they hear the idea of thinking only of oneself and ignoring others. It brings to mind someone selfish, self-centered, and cold. However, it seems that focusing on yourself is actually essential for happiness. By concentrating on your own path and doing what you must do, you create the opportunity for personal growth.
The Buddha taught his followers the necessity of renouncing worldly life. To focus entirely on spiritual practice, one cannot afford to worry about food, clothing, or shelter. Therefore, monks leave their homes to devote themselves solely to their practice, relying on offerings for their basic needs. Of course, we are not monks; we must manage the practicalities of life. We do more than just survive—we work to create surplus, enjoy good food, wear stylish clothes, and seek comfortable homes. Yet, there is very little in these comforts that actually helps us grow. In reality, the time we have each day to dedicate to “self-growth” is surprisingly limited. If that is the case, there is no point in wasting those precious resources on other people’s business. That time is yours, and yours alone.
When we criticize what others have done or failed to do, we feel a sense of self-righteousness and satisfaction. But are we actually refining ourselves while judging the lives of others? Instead of judging others, use that time for your own sake. And in the same way, let us celebrate and respect those who, like us, are striving to live for their own growth.